FOCUSđ
Practice hasnât even started yet.
One kid is tying their shoe for the third time.
Another is spinning a ball on their finger.
Someoneâs talking about a video game.
Someone else is staring off into space.
A coach claps their hands and says, âEyes up.â
For about five seconds, everyoneâs locked in.
Then⌠gone again.
Most adults see this and think, Kids just canât focus anymore.
Phones. Screens. Short attention spans.
But thatâs not actually the problem.
đ§ The Insight
Focus isnât a personality trait.
Itâs a skill.
According to Peak Mind, attention works more like a muscle than a switch. You donât either âhave itâ or ânot have it.â You train it, lose it, regain it, and strengthen it over time.
Kids arenât bad at focusing.
Theyâre just untrained.
And like any untrained skill, we usually ask too much of it, too fast.
đ The Story
Think about how we teach physical skills.
We donât hand a kid a bat and say, âAlright, hit a curveball.â
We start with a tee.
Then front toss.
Then live pitching.
But with attention, we do the opposite.
We expect a 9-year-old to stay locked in for a 90-minute practice, ignore distractions, manage nerves, and instantly refocus after mistakes⌠without ever being taught how.
Thatâs like skipping the tee and wondering why the swing falls apart.
Attention needs reps too.
đ The Shift
Stop treating focus like a requirement.
Start treating it like a drill.
Instead of saying:
âPay attention.â
âLock in.â
âFocus!â
Try building small, repeatable routines that train attention before asking kids to use it.
Short. Simple. Boring on purpose.
Thatâs how skills stick.
đ§ The Takeaway
If focus is a skill, then inconsistency is part of learning it.
Kids will drift.
Theyâll get distracted.
Theyâll lose it mid-drill.
Thatâs not failure. Thatâs the workout.
The goal isnât perfect focus.
The goal is noticing when attention wanders⌠and bringing it back.
Over and over.
đ Put It Into Practice
The 60-Second Focus Drill
Use this before practice, games, or even homework.
Everyone stands still.
One slow breath in through the nose.
One slow breath out through the mouth.
Eyes on one fixed point.
Coach says: âWhen your mind wanders, just bring it back.â
Thatâs it.
No speeches. No pressure.
Sixty seconds. One rep.
Do it consistently, and youâll notice something change. Not instantly. Quietly.
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The Locker Room
Mindset Move: Train It Small
Attention doesnât improve from yelling.
It improves from reps.
Short focus routines.
Clear resets after mistakes.
Simple cues kids can return to.
The athletes who focus best arenât trying harder.
Theyâre trained better.
â¤ď¸ The Parentsâ Bleachers
If your child struggles to âpay attention,â resist the urge to label it.
Instead of:
âYouâre not focused.â
Try:
âLetâs practice bringing it back.â
Praise the reset, not the perfection.
When kids learn that losing focus isnât the end of the world, they stop panicking about it. And ironically, they focus better.
⥠BE THE CATALYST
Focus doesnât come from demanding it.
It comes from training it.
This week, try one 60-second focus drill before practice and see what happens.
Then ask yourself:
What other skills are we expecting⌠without ever teaching?
Forward this to a coach or parent whoâs tired of yelling âFocus!â and ready to actually build it.
